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2010-07-09T23:11:00.000+08:00

                                                          所以人生也有欢乐与痛苦，
                                                          追求与思索，我们只求每段都活得精彩，
      无怨无悔才是人生的真谛。

说话的艺术

2010-07-02T16:17:00.001+08:00

往往，我们在说话或和别人对谈时会不知不觉地得罪或伤害了对方，所以有时我们在说话时必须特别注意。。。

1、当我们听到别人对我们某些长处的赞扬后,再去听一些不很痛苦的批评,总是会觉得好受很多!
在某中意义上,批评也是一种赞美,它意味着你做的某件事情太重要了,批评家们无法忽视它
*   提防不狂吠的狗,小心不冒烟的汤,不喜欢当面夸奖别人的人,不代表他不喜欢在背后挖苦别人
  * 对智者固然要称道,对愚者也不应嘲笑,至于对诽谤的最好回答，就是无言的蔑视.
  * 说话,通常不是说给自己听,而是说给别人听，既然如此,你又怎么能不去考虑一下别人听了这些话,
      会有怎么样的解读呢?
* 说话说得好,不如说得巧
   > 一个真正懂得说话的人,不见得字字珠玑,句句含光,但是,他总是能说出对方想听到的话
   > 不该说的话,还是别说了吧! 说得太好,别人怀疑你的居心,说得不好,别人又会因为找不到台阶下而迁怒于你,这种两面不讨好的事,何必处心积虑去做呢?
   >不实的谣言: 不管你再怎么强调你只是"听说",不管你事后如何道歉补救,伤害都已经造成.换成你是当事人,你做何感受?

2、
   "根据可靠的消息指出,这个世界上根本就没有必要可靠的消息". 谣言止于智者,但愿你与我都能够有这样的智慧!
* 说好话会有好下场,说实话却未必有实际的报酬;如果上位者没有容人的雅量,你最好要懂得察言观色,沉默是金!
* 不是教你逢迎拍马,而是提醒你忠言逆耳,祸从口出;那些发自内心的肺腑之言,还是要选择合适的人才说.
* 过度的赞美,是毒药,你可以端在手上,但是千万不能喝进胃里去!

3、
> 最懂得说话的艺术的人,往往会让语言和肢体动作联合起来,一起混淆你的理解能力
   > 为突来的情绪生气,你发了一场熊熊的无名火,想一想,这对别人来说,又是多么的不公平!
   > 遇到话不投机的对象,你会怎么做? 站起来就走? 那只会显得自己太没礼貌了.而且自得其乐的对方根本不知道是怎么一回事,完全得不到教训
> 说话要顾及对方的感受,而翻脸也是如此,不如就照对方的逻辑回敬他吧!
> 争执的结果往往是这样的，十之八九的人比先前更加相信自己绝对是正确的!

4、
             >千万别开傻瓜的玩笑,也不要和他们争辩,否则,到最后旁人会搞不清楚,到底谁是傻瓜!
             >一句还没说出口的话还属于你,有如剑还在你的魈中,话一出口,你的剑柄就抓在别人的手中了
             >同一件事,用不同的方式呈现,所得到的效果也不相同,这是"作秀"的好处,也正是"包装"的艺术啊
             > 真正会讲话的人,不是记着别人讲过的话,而是能讲出一些让人牢牢记着的话
             >如果一个人相当热衷于劝告别人,这无疑证明了,其实最需要劝告的人是他自己

5、
       >越是棘手的事情,越是需要幽默,幽默不只是娱乐自己,同时也是娱乐别人,只要人们可以笑得出来,还会有什么解决不了的大事呢?
        > 不懂得拐弯抹角说话,你便会伤了别人的心,不懂得拐弯抹角的听话,你便会上了别人的当而不自知!
       >    如果你欢迎别人在说假话,那么最好假装相信.这样,他就会更加相信,编出更大的谎言
       >   应当原谅那些当面毁诋你的人,因为他们把难听的话说给你听,而不时背地里说给别人听
       > 奉承不用花钱,但是绝大多数的人却不自觉的向奉承者付出巨款

6、
   * 由于发出忠告的人总是显出高人一等的模样,因此,即使是最必要,或者是最英明的忠告,也永远不为别人所接受!
     * 接受傻瓜的奉承,无疑是对自己声明的沾污,他们唾沫四溅,绝非是为拉帮你洗脸!
     * 讲礼貌不必花钱,但可以买到一切!
    * 也许金山银山都不足以使某些人受到诱惑,但是,但是高明的奉承绝对会让他们醉倒在地!

7、
     * 在交际应酬场合宣扬别人的隐私,说别人的闲话,在背后胡乱评说他人等等,都是要不得的,可别忘记,别人可能随时进行反扑!
     * 在言语上,你应该巧妙地让下属感觉到你的关怀,使他不对你记恨,而是把你的批评看作为一种激励,一种鞭策.
     *当别人的表现不如自己的预期时,破口大骂并不是最好的方式,有时不仿以赞美竞争对手的方式,制造他的危机意识!

8、 * 不管一个人说得多好,你要记住,当他说得太多的时候,终究会说出蠢话来!    * 说"你们"时,人们的感觉是说话的人和听话的人分别存在,并处于不同的立场,而"我们"给人的印象,则是两者站在同一立场上.
   *人也可以这样来分类: 有的人先思考,然后说话或行动;有的人则先说话或行动,然后再思考
   *如果你不想对一种说法或行为负责任的话,你就不妨借用别人的名义!

2010-07-02T12:24:00.000+08:00

sometimes u wont get what u want in life, and sometimes things wont goes as what you expected, this is a challenge in life...

time passes very fast...

2010-07-01T17:24:00.000+08:00

Today is the 1st of july, means that i still got 3 weeks more to study before i having my final exam, altough this sem v go tru different situation and alot emotions have been shown out by every1 during this sem, but at least v hv almost reach the end of this semester . Another sad / happy / counfused things is next semester is my last semester in PSDC.... hope everythg will be working fine and i can graduate in january of nex year...btw, friends!! all the best and good luck to u all....

What to update??

2010-06-27T21:12:00.001+08:00

I dont know wanna write what for the update...any idea guys??

i m outdated~~

2010-02-27T22:19:00.000+08:00

everyone watched le, jz left me =.= so outdated~~

Countdown 1 week le....^^

2010-02-07T00:03:00.000+08:00

The same day of next week is CNY lo ~ ~ ~ ^.^
gong xi , gong xi ~ gong xi fa cai

jz a short post ~~

2010-01-20T00:07:00.000+08:00

ok~ the day after tmr is the last day of this sem le...wow, at last it pass tru le....really got alot "bad" memory and experience for this sem, i think should be left it behind le....
aiming for higher score for this sem final exam...after the exam is the time to celebrate CNY...woohoo!!!

dulan !!!

2010-01-03T22:42:00.000+08:00

y this world got such noisy d person ya?? keep disturbing ppl only..dulan !!!! u think u is the "best" in the class ah?? fuck u lah!!! always keep disturbing ppl, summore ppl d project report also mz let u c only can d wor, that 1 already say is personal report, summore want ppl send softcopy to him...NAH!!! u think u is lecturer ah!!!gv u c le not complete still get scolded by u ...NAH!!!

dulan !!!! dulan!!! dulan!! the class lack of u wont die d, dont think urself r very geng...u noe d things every1 oso noe, not u alone noe nia.... fuck u!!!! think urself is very geng, ya lah, always in class talk the alien word very geng liao lah, cz no ppl noe how to listen ....others than this, i dint c u got others place geng than others ppl... dulan!!!!!

Last two weeks of year 2009

2009-12-22T19:55:00.000+08:00

Woah, very fast ya, already the last two weeks of year 2009 le...dunoe wat to describe for this whole year...haiz... got alot of happiness n (the opposite feeling) too..jz feel that the past jz let it pass, really wish that next year will b better...

: )

2009-11-28T23:57:00.002+08:00

just come to update a bit only...time really pass very fast ya, just "blink" the eyes only already is december of 2009 le in the day after tomorrow ..
wish that everything can go through n smooth in december due to a lot problem and unexpected things happen in november...
december>> alot of program and expenses = $$$

2009-11-21T15:20:00.001+08:00

friends, i already had closed my friendster account in last few day le due to no more active in thr...

T@lk l3ess, work more...

2009-11-20T12:23:00.002+08:00

Nowadays, better to talk less n work more.... bcz the more u talk, the more misunderstanding by others u will get..
Even sumtimes, the actual meaning of the word or sentence that u say out can be turn, turn n turning into another meanings by some "have heart" person... haiz.....
some of them are even more worst, they will think what is the purpose of the sentence that u speak even thr r jz a few simple word...

so as conclusion, jz talk until the least , and work more to make ur life more easy in this world today... ( no nid so many misunderstanding or ur word been "turn" into another meaning...)

str**myx >> haiz..

2009-10-01T21:20:00.003+08:00

this few days the internet line is making me very "pek chek", paid every month but the service like...... =.=

got a picture can represent ur company line service..

this lah str**myx internet speed..

2009-09-27T01:54:00.001+08:00

holiday is almost finished~~~

^^V

Rubik Cube..

2009-09-27T01:24:00.005+08:00

Nowadays, there are more and more students in our college are playing and some of them kinda addicted to this thingy called "Rubik"

1 of my coursemate who are a Pro in playing those rubiks are also the supplier for the class..
He will deliver it to you hand to hand once you order or from me. =P
He plays 2x2, 3x3, 4x4, 5x5 cubes, pillow mastermorphix and peter black hole.
He can solve some of these cubes in jz few minutes..

My first 4x4 cube, played when i in holidays..

after "mixing " it..

After a few hours for 1st try ...

Complete

friends, if got time can buy 1 n try , this toys is not bad...

END~

~tagged~

2009-09-27T00:44:00.005+08:00

Rules:
Once you've been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with d wedding plan! (:
At the end, choose d people u want to be tagged.
You have to tag the person who tagged you.
If I tagged you, it's because I want to know about you! (:

1. How old are you?
20 years old

2. Are you single?
Yes

3. At what age do you think you'll get married?
above 25

4. Do you think you'll marry the person you are with now?
-

5. If not, who do you want to marry?
of cz is the person i love ...

6. Who will be your bridesmaid & bestman?
dint decided yet~~

7. Do you want a garden/beach or traditional wedding?
beach~~(modern)

8. where do you plan to go on honeymoon?
Australia may b^^

9. How many guests do you think you'll invite?
all the friends which always mix together d.

10. Will that include your exes? -
yes...

11. How many layers of cake do you want?
9

12. When do you want to get married, morning or evening?
not morning n evening d meh??

13. Name the song/tune you'd like to play at your wedding.
dint decide yet..

14. Do you prefer fine dining or just normal spoon&fork?knife?
fine dining~~

15. Champagne or red wine?
can choose both??

16. Honeymoon right after the wedding or days after the wedding?
days after wedding...

17. Money or household items?
money!! $ $ $

18. How many kids would you like to have?
3, 2 boys 1 girls

19. Will you record your honeymoon in DVD/CD?
yes...

20. Whose wedding plan would you like to know next.
Teoh Han Jie

TAG!!!!

han jie
zeen wei
yipehn
lee jun
yee horng
xiang yang
soo may
yee huei
yan san
chellyn
edwin lim

study week..>.<

2009-07-30T09:49:00.003+08:00

study week is started on last week n last in this weekend, but that giving me a feeling that it is too short cz of "tan" of notes n tutorial nid to study...haiz..
Altough, the time is short n i cant stand with the revision-ing any more, i plan to hv a break..
i went to QB with Yee Huei and Yong Chiet to watch this "stupid" movie..
The movie is nice but ( the movie hv no point at all)...

So, friends....u all noe lah ya...

^^ 上课？睡觉？

2009-04-17T00:43:00.000+08:00

最近常常晚上不能入睡，却偏偏隔天早上8点就有课了....haiz...
结果，solution = 在班上钓鱼了....　
这个semester又有新条规，如果coursework marks 没超过50%，final exam 就可以不用考了。
新新还以为这个sem只有４个subject会比较轻松，结果功课+ assignment 多到像....(不会讲)
看来这个sem 有得慢慢"享受"了....haha...

第一次写blog...^^

2009-03-13T23:30:00.000+08:00

经过朋友们一直鼓吹我写blog, 所以就下决心写了。
其实我也希望能通过写blog把生活上的点滴写出来。
但是，我到现在都没有任何灵感要写什么东西咧!!
写着这样先，慢点一定会继续写的．